Anonymous asked:
Sorry imma couple of days late! Breakdown of the Kim and Daood scenes for this week please?
badedramay:
(heylo..I hope all is well at your end!)
It was a decent episode. not a LOT of KimDawood content but enough to know where they stand in this relationship. Dawood, bless that fool, said and didn’t say a lot of words just to mean that he was jealous of Kim’s relationship with Zulfi xD am I wrong to interpret this as jealousy? the man saw Kim, his would be wife, ditch her own mehendi ceremony to personally go invite Zulfi for her wedding. then he had to witness Kim fully disregard his “warning” to not step out of the house without being escorted by him. THEN he had to bear Kim defending Zulfi and being a-okay about Zulfi’s financial condition and thus, again dismissing Dawood’s so-called valid concern that Zulfi took her out for lunch at a sub-standard place. like…Kim has done more with/for Zulfi than she has done with/for Dawood and I can’t imagine a desi mard like Dawood being okay with it. i am not saying he thinks there’s anything illicit going on between the two but c'mon..Dawood most definitely IS jealous/insecure of Kim’s proximity with Zulfi.
I really don’t think Dawood won any rounds in this episode. Kim was throwing one bomb after another in the car ride afterwards. gotta say i LOVED how Maya acted in the scene. the insult Kim felt at being treated like an object by these two men..the rage she was feeling in that moment and trying her best to not let it get the best of her..the way her eyes were sparkling with tears but she didn’t let them escape..it was just all so wonderfully portrayed and captured. Kim YET AGAIN exposed Dawood’s hypocrisy that he is only concerned with imposing his decisions on his wife but doesn’t spare the same energies on his father or brother because he KNOWS he has no control over them. no son can overrule his father’s decisions. working elder brothers don’t always have the energy to deal with unruly younger brothers beyond reprimanding them occasionally (but not investing any time to make sure the reprimands bear a positive change). but with Kim he keeps bringing up the “you’re my wife” reminder because that, in his head, gives him a higher “authority” over her that he has seen happen all around him all his life. the whole “mard ki aurat pe bartari” logic that gets legitimized when a man and woman get married to each other. Kim, love of my life, firmly reminds him that his superiority BS won’t work on her because she doesn’t depend on him for security that she’d have no choice but to give in to his whims and demands as most of the women in marriages do.
I was thinking this other day and idk if I tweeted or posted about it but..Kim in her marriage with Dawood is a very clear example of how much patriarchy as a concept works solely on the oppression of women. you give women a decent amount of power and autonomy and a LOTTTT if not all of patriarchal concepts get shattered. Kim is not like Razia or Iqbal or Suraiya. her identity is not constantly tied or and defined by the relationship she shares with any men. her “liberal” way of living has given her the chance to own her agency. which is why she can stay mad at her father. which is why she can firmly make conditions of how she wants her marriage with Dawood to be. which is why she’s the only one who can question Dada’s rulings. because she isn’t scared that offending any of these men will have an irreparable impact on HER life. Kim never crosses the boundary of respect or decency when she questions. she doesn’t have to. she’s just so highly secure in her life as just being KIM that she knows that if her justified questions fall on deaf ears and this environment she’s living in becomes too suffocating for her..she can easily walk out and no one will have any power or authority over her to stop her. the thing is Kim is, so far, CHOOSING to stay here because there’s still something here holding here. be it her growing feelings for Dawood or the companionship she’s finding in Suraiya, Iqbal, and Zulfi. that’s the mark of a relationship’s beauty I feel. that a person, who has the choice to leave, CHOOSES to stay. not because they HAVE to but because they WANT to. i feel Kim, ultimately, would WANT to stay back. but for that to happen Dawood still has a LONG way to go.
Dawood is getting influenced by Kim at least enough for him to take the first step of standing up to Dada. yeah it’s a weak step cuz his obedience (which is a flaw of his let’s be real) doesn’t allow him to counter-argue with Dada. Kim kardeti argue. but Dawood was silenced when Dada gave a very weak reasoning about why Suraiya wouldn’t object to the marriage and why there’s not even a NEED to ask for her marzi. “main uska Wali hoon..kuch gair-sharai’ kaam nahin horaha”. Again..patriarchy empowered through women’s oppression. cuz the religion very STRICTLY says that the consent lies SOLELY on the individual in matters related to marriage. a no IS a no and no wali has the power to veto it.
the preview for next week is a little scary ngl. Kim has her heart in the right place but she doesn’t have patience to deal with things without blowing up a few buildings along the way. although i must say TWICE In this episode she shielded Suraiya from unwanted interrogation so Kim is also learning the art of navigating complex situations. she’s still a beginner though so she has a long way to go to perfect it xD i am happy that Suraiya’s issue is out and there’s no dragging it. also, I feel it’s gonna be Dawood who’ll ultimately take a step for his sister and fight for her right. and maybe that will be the catalyst for Kim truly falling for him. oh she KNOWS she’s attracted to him and she isn’t entirely unhappy with him but Dawood’s tendency to stay silent in matters that demand him to speak up make Kim not really respect him. she’s always lowkey mad at him for not refusing to the marriage when he KNEW he didn’t like her. she’s now highkey mad that he’s not fighting for her sister’s right to marry the guy of her choice. if the show truly intends to show via Dawood&Kim’s relationship of how these two people from two completely different worlds can come together and learn from each other to make lay foundation of a whole new world where both their previous worlds can peacefully coexist..NOW is the best time to show that.
P.S - how freakin’ glorious was Kim being all “ab main itni achi bhi nahin hoon ke apki har baat manun.” to Razia xD the way I laughed! i love love LOVEEE whenever Maya does these cheeky scenes. there’s this innocence in her sass that’s never badtameez. gaaah Kim has really become my top3 fav Maya Ali characters and the show isn’t over yet! nazar na lag jaye bass!!
